Joy Lynn

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Little Ways Your Spouse Is Loving You Without Saying It

Little Ways Your Spouse Is Loving You Without Saying It

You know how sometimes we have a tendency to get so caught up in a routine or so unbalanced in our busy schedules we stop noticing the moments in between?

What I mean, are the moments when you aren't kissing, saying "I love you," bringing home flowers, going on a date, etc... those are all pretty clear moments of affection and ways we can show love to our spouse. I mean the moments when we're caught up in our own little bubble, slightly oblivious to what's going on in the other room or even right next to us.

Here a few moments maybe you're missing amidst the busyness, but are certainly little ways "I love you" is being said without actually saying it. Maybe some of them are even annoying to you, but take a minute and think of something they do or say that might just have a sweeter meaning!

  • They tell you to drive safe.
  • They message you out of nowhere to see how your day is.
  • They get you a glass of water for your bedside table while you brush your teeth.
  • They take baby/pet duty for the evening/morning/entire day.
  • They cook you dinner - maybe even one of your favorites.
  • They clean up the kitchen after a meal.
  • They take care of the finances every week.
  • They pick up dinner on their way home.
  • They fix the leaky faucet or clogged drain (and you never even noticed!)
  • They do all the laundry and make sure your bedding is always fresh.
  • They tell you how handsome/beautiful you are every morning - before you've hardly opened your eyes to wake up.
  • They pass on compliments others have shared about you.
  • They give you a back-rub just because.
  • They clean up your side of the bedroom/sink/etc...
  • They surprise you for a midweek lunch date.
  • They take a day off to help you with something.
  • They tell you to let them know when you get to your destination.
  • They always, always hug you when they greet you at the beginning or end of a day apart.
  • They send you links to things that you'd like (or they like and just want to share with you!)
  • They wait to watch that show with you.
  • They hold your hand in the car.
  • They give you that sweet look of admiration or one that says "you're hot and I love you."
  • They tell you they're proud of you and appreciate you.
  • They speak well of you around others.
  • They drive a little slower, just for you ;)
  • They bring you home a bottle of wine/beer/whatever.
  • They always make sure there's coffee for you in the morning.
  • They make sure you know how important you are to them.
  • They take turns reading a book aloud with you.
  • They keep your car in good shape and gas filled up.
  • They fix your buggy phone or computer.
  • They wait to have dinner with you - even though they're starving!
  • They make you something (sewing, building furniture, DIY house project, etc...).
  • They give you their jacket.
  • They let you have the last bite of dessert.
  • They drive you (I take this for granted all the time! I love my chauffeur!).
  • They play with the kids so you have time for yourself.
  • They encourage you to do what you love.
  • They support you, right alongside you in your faith.
  • They pray for you.
  • They know your favorites and style and you could trust them to order you a drink, entree, pair of shoes, piece of furniture, whatever, without worrying about their choice.
  • They know the temperatures you're most comfortable in the car, outside, etc...
  • They keep trips organized and efficient.
  • They clean up the dog poop.
  • They ask you if you need anything from the kitchen before they come sit down.
  • They take their shoes off before tracking all over the house.
  • They listen to your boring work stories.
  • They notice your new hair-do/haircut, shaved face, new earrings, etc...
  • They give you secret signals in public that say "I love you" or remind you of an inside joke.
  • They do weird things just to make you laugh.
  • They remember to keep the necessities for the house in stock (toilet paper!)
  • They randomly order something they know you'll love and don't tell you until you open it in the mail.
  • They watch the shows or movies only you like, just so they can be with you.
  • They don't judge you when you're gassy - haha!!
  • They help you decorate a room and hold up items on the walls for "vision."
  • They hold you tight when you need to cry.
  • They open jars and reach things that are too high.
  • They smell nice for you.
  • They take the sweetest care you when you're sick.
  • They sass you in the very best ways and never stop flirting with you.
  • They genuinely respect you and it shows.
  • They put God and faith before you.
  • They're there in a jiffy when you're in a bind.
  • They let you have the favorite blanket.
  • They leave their stuff in the pile of whatever room because they had to drop everything to give you a kiss.
  • They take pictures of you that you hate, but they cherish because it was a real moment.
  • And that even if you've been grumpy with each other, those little moments in between are still there to fill in "I love you."

Of course, this is only the tip of the iceberg, and mostly ones I could think of from our one relationship out of the millions of relationships in the world. How does your spouse "love you in between?"

January | 2017

January | 2017

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